Are you ready to make a change to get REALLY healthy and happy ?
Get yourself a cup of tea and sit back and relax, this blog is going to be a juicy one. Now before I start I know I promised you a Kefir Blog and let me assure you it is coming, however I don’t think I will leave you disappointed with this one. Cause lets face it, we all love a good juicy story!!!!
Todays blog has nothing to do with training and nothing to do with nutrition. Well maybe a little. For those of you who don’t know I have a story, you can check it out here …… Or ask a neighbour and interpret as you will because lets face it’s a small town. Just to catch you up a few years ago, two to be exact, I made a decision which changed my whole world. At 24 years of age I had a fiancé, a dog, a cat, a house, friends and a supportive family – life looked pretty perfect. But if you haven’t already discovered yet, life is short of perfect, people aren’t perfect. Luckily for me, I have always had a strong sense of love and meaning so I was subconsciously aware that despite all things around me being in place there was some big piece of me that was missing something.
That something turned out to be a lot of things! AND I MEAN A LOT of things! I will spare you the juicy details for another time but finding the right person to share my life with is my single biggest thing I am grateful for. I have always and will always hold my partner as my nearest and dearest. Your partner is the person you CHOOSE to spend your lifetime with. They are your best friend, your biggest support, your lover, the one who sees you most vulnerable, the one who shares your pain, who will put your life before their own. And if they are not those things they should be. Don’t get me wrong family and friends are most of these things as well however after the age of 18 years most people start their own journey to discover themselves and start the search for their very own unique other to share a life and most intimate moments with. This is human nature.
As I already mentioned but it’s important enough to repeat, we are not perfect, we don’t always find the perfect match, the first time, the second time or the third or fourth. And maybe we do find the perfect match and that serves us for a period of time and then people and or circumstances change. And I am not a quitter, I am all for putting in the hard yards and making things work but at some stage we need to be honest to ourselves and accept that it’s meant to be or it simply isn’t. This is not an easy thing to do. It will require some serious courage, support, a bit of selfishness and a huge amount of trust. Trust that in your gut, see I told you that gut was important, you know you are making the right steps to serve yourself a more meaningful, prosperous life.
The moment you do this, I guarantee you that doors will open, opportunities will present, weight will be lifted from your shoulders and day by day good days will out weigh bad ones and eventually you will become more sure of your decisions and choices. And hey, you might even find yourself again along the way. And that’s a nice feeling.
Change inevitably brings growth. Im not sure if its always “as good as a holiday” but it definitely challenges you and allows you to feel the benefits after the change has taken place. Too often people don’t make changes – to themselves, to their circumstance, to their life. I was one of them. I was going to float on through life, being a nice, kind hearted person but one that was too scared to rock the boat, too scared to be less than perfect. But fuck perfect, who wants this anyway – its boring and it brings misery. The perfect body, the perfect hair, the perfect house, the perfect partner, the perfect relationship, the perfect family! If it looks to good to be true it usually is!
The best thing you can do for yourself and everyone around you is be authentic to who you are. What makes you happy? What excites you?
If someone had asked me these questions two, three or even five years ago I would not been able to answer them and I am confident that most people cannot. Because somewhere along the way we get so caught up in all the negativity and all the rubbish inside our head that we forget to just start living! What it is that gives you pleasure , brings you joy, brings you happiness. For me this is reading, learning and discussing all things health related, cooking and cleaning (yes I enjoy cleaning, I feel very accomplished after), being in nature, doing intelligent movements for my body, writing, drinking coffee in a funky cafe, eating delicious food, talking to people, having an intelligent conversation, learning about the world.
PLEASURE is the antidote of STRESS and stress is at the root of every persons problems. “You can eat all the nutritious food you like and have the best trainer on the planet but until you fix your head and the rubbish in it you will not be healthy.” This is a direct quote from my partner. Yes, he is direct but guess what he is spot on.
So what is my purpose with this blog? I have a very clear purpose. I want to tell you that:
Change is for some people scary and confronting but it is required to move forward. I am forever grateful for the people that have challenged me to make changes even if I was uncomfortable at the time and I urge you to challenge yourself.
You cannot expect health and happiness if you aren’t willing to make small changes to improve your mental and physical health daily. It requires constant work.
It might feel silly at the time but this will pass and you will feel better for doing it. I’m talking meditation, mobility, affirmations.
I am a kind human being and I urge you to be one too. People want to be heard, they want to feel important, they want to feel worthy of something. To be deprived of that is a damaging and it affects a persons self worth and that takes a lot of work to regain. So people learn to LISTEN.
Show people you care. The smallest gesture can be felt for a lifetime. I am grateful for everyone who has made me feel this. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I choose to be the very best version of myself – my actions are aligned with this choice. Are yours?
Have a pleasurable and productive week.
Love Chantel x